The Pro's and Con's of Long Distance Relationships

I Initially wanted to let the headline of this piece be Relationships are Easy,

because I really think they have all the potential?

and ingredients to be if the two involved

would be grown up and driven more by love than ego?

and attachments,

stay out of drama,

and don't consider each other property.

We are not property,?

we shouldn?t be treated as it,?

or treat our loved one that way.

This is just a few initial thoughts about relationships in general

And now on to the tricky tricky part ??

the long distance version since this

is what I wanted to air some thoughts about.

Because lets face it,

?dating in the digital age,?

and the wonders of computers?

and cyber space has shrunk our world considerably and incredibly.

Which means that you can meet someone and fall madly in love with someone who's

on the other side of the planet ??

not just in the neighborhood library or the pub down the street.

If your neighborhood is equipped with that sort of establishments that is.

Most people I know shun the long distance version of love

and don?t really get it.

I can certainly understand that,

I didn?t either for the longest time..

But if handled with respect, care, compassion

and by putting the ever demanding ego aside,

I think it has the potential to be both a lifechanging

and wonderful experience.

But to make a thing like this work,

the things to be considered and actually ACTED on must be;

Communication,

?total transparency and honesty,

no mind games or shadow boxing,

straight talk, no secrets,

making a game plan and sticking to it,

make good use of the phone, chat lines?but

First And Foremost:

Honesty and transparency!

I happen to think that in our day and age,

giving a long distance love a chance is the equivalent

to how we went about it back in the day:

We didn?t make sex a part of the deal from the getgo,

We took the time to?well.. woo each other,

get to know each other,

to let the emotions grow?

and evolve before sex entered the scene.

And maybe, just maybe,?

a lot of our failed relationships and marriages

has a little bit to do with this?

We don?t really know each other before we tie knots

and chain each other down.

We want the pretty package wrapping without having any idea about

what?s hidden underneath.

And we want what everybody else have;

the wife/husband, the house, the kids, the car, the cabin by the lake,

the expensive pretty things that?s designed to send signals

to everybody about how successful and powerful we are.

And what it comes down to, they are just that?

Symbols of achievements..

Immediate gratification is the key word.?

In a relationship where you simply have no choice but to make the

non physical parts a priority,

we also have a unique chance of letting love and understanding,

respect and spirituality grow and evolve within it?

And this is so possible when we know that we are all One,

and we are all in each others energy all the time no matter

where we are or where we live.

All we need to do is prioritize differently?

And we need to practice more compassion,

more understanding,

more patience,

and more communication.

And because of maybe months and months of practicing these things,

by putting aside the ego,

and making each other first and last

while still understanding that both parties have a life to live in their end,

by the time the first meeting takes place

the relationship will already be on sturdy ground ?

you know each other.

Not from the outside, but from the inside..

And you know each other in a way that could possibly take years

to achieve, if ever,

by letting the ego play the starring role?

and making the physical the priority.

But that being said,

The internet is also a breeding ground for psychopaths and narcissists.

In short a breeding ground for the Cluster B disordered? who continuously

use chat rooms, any social network,

and any dating service to play out their disorders on unsuspecting victims.

So, though there are so many dangers out there,

and you would need to be careful,?

listen to your gut feelings,

(If something doesn?t add up, literally back out, and Background checks, run them!).

Read up on cyberpaths and familiarize yourself on how they operate ??

useful link at the end of this article ?

I would recommend you don?t let fear rob you of a possibly beautiful experience

even if it?s not going about it the traditional way.

Good Luck!

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?Absence diminishes small loves

and increases great ones,

as the wind blows out the candle

and blows up the bonfire.?

~Francois de la Rouchefoucauld

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Source: http://thepurrybuddha.blogspot.com/2012/06/pros-and-cons-of-long-distance.html

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